How shud i control my anger when i'm extremely irritated?No class sug. pls.?

First of all, it's extremely hard work. If you're not willing to work hard at it, it's never going to change for you. Some people are very prone to anger. It's like breathing or swallowing - it's a reflex that bubbles up from nowhere, out of control. So changing - or controlling something so amazingly strong and sudden is very hard to do. But it's completely possible.





There is a book I would strongly suggest you read. ';Transforming Anger';. Here is a link on Amazon for the book:


http://www.amazon.com/Transforming-Anger鈥?/a>


This book will tell you that anger is actually a physiological response; not just emotional. This is good news for you!! That means you can actually control it physically rather than trying to control runaway emotions.





The best tip in the book, to answer your question, is 1) get a mantra (a saying like, ';Choose kindness'; - or whatever works for you) and 2) breathe the mantra in deeply in your mind and then breathe it out in your mind. It sounds ridiculous, but I guarantee that it works.





Some good examples of mantras are below:


- Choose kindness


- This is only temporary


- They don't know they're hurting me


- Love, love, love





Remember that anger comes from fear, deep down inside. You're actually just displaying fear when you get angry. Fear that you're being mistreated. Fear that you're being misunderstood. Fear. Find a mantra that not only calms your mind but that soothes that fear, too.





Hope this helps!!How shud i control my anger when i'm extremely irritated?No class sug. pls.?
Go bowling. Picture all those irritating faces on the pins. I always get better scores that way.How shud i control my anger when i'm extremely irritated?No class sug. pls.?
Write out your frustration in a notebook. Focus on your breathing. It is a challenge to control your anger sometimes for sure but it's better than lashing out and doing something you will regret later.
Bad spelling is a sign of laziness and self hatred. Start there.
Concentrate on your breathing. Consciously think.....breath in through your nose. real deep. Put your lips together like you are blowing a kiss and blow the old air all out. Keep doing this. Breath in through your nose, deep. Blow it all out with a kiss. If you think about this as you do it, it helps a lot of stuff. By the way. this is called pursed lip breathing. Try it.
drink heavily
listen to soothing music and if you're really upset scream into a pillow or write something
count backwards from 100 it helps belive me!!! try going like slow not to fast if ur only a little mad take it down to 20.
Don't control your anger. Pound the crap out of the person responsible for the irritation so they don't do it again. If they even remember who you are when you get out of prison.